Daily Truth: “Be still and know that I am God.” Psalms 46:10
Out of commission. Not something usually attributed to mom’s.
However, we’ve all been there at some point. We wake up with a headache or come down with the flu and…..
We are out of commission for a few hours or even a couple of days.
Yet somehow the fam still has to be fed, kids still have to get to school, boo-boo’s still need to be kissed, etc.
That was me – out of commission for 2 1/2 weeks.
I knew it was coming. I prepared as best as I could with a checklist of items.
Freezer meals made – check.
Laundry done – check.
Sister here – check.
Clothes laid out for the kids for the week – check.
House cleaned – check.
Yet, somehow it didn’t feel like it was going to be enough.
The day came. Everyone was ready. Thus began my time of being out of commission.
Don’t get me wrong, I still kissed boo-boo’s and listened to how the days went for each child. But I didn’t move from my chair in the living room except for when absolutely necessary.
However, I must say I learned a lot while being out of commission.
So, here are “Lessons learned from an Out of Commission Mom”.
1. It’s OK to say “no”. We mom’s are so busy and we make ourselves even busier by adding extra burdens on us. Then we wonder why we have melt downs. It was so refreshing to be able to tell people “No, I can’t do that because….”. For 2 1/2 weeks, no responsibilities except for my family. REFRESHING!!!!
2. Devotional time can be refreshing. I have had a devotional book that I have been meaning to tackle for about 4 months and just never got to it. Well, I got to it and it forced me to go deep into God’s Word.
To my shame, too often my devotional time was a quick verse and a prayer.
I wondered why I would feel spiritually depleted.
When I was forced to sit, my devotional time was amazing. I would start and then look at the clock and an hour would have passed!
I’ll say more about this another week.
3. It’s OK to ask for help. My sister could only stay for a week. My mom helped as much as she could as well as my husband. But there were times we needed another set of hands. That’s when we called on our friends. It is amazing the friends that God brings in your life before you “need” help. When that time comes where you just can’t do it by yourself, those friends are there for you – ready and willing to help!
4. It’s OK to accept help when it’s offered. People would text and say, “I’m bringing a meal.” or “I am taking the littlest guy for a play date these days.” They didn’t ask. They just did it. All of those people made my recovery time so much shorter because I could get much needed rest.
Warning: Both asking for and accepting help can be very humbling.
5. It’s amazing how much help the kids can be. The house got cleaned, laundry got done, and supper was put on the table all with the kids help. Ok. So, it wasn’t up to “Mom” standards but it was sufficient and much appreciated.
6. Cards and texts were an encouragement. Can I tell you what it was like to get a card with a quick note saying, “Praying for you”? I’d get a text a few times a day from friends just checking up on me. Huge blessing.
7. My husband is the BEST!!!! “For better or worse” has been put to the test the last few years with God entrusted trials. Yet, my husband has always been there for me. I depended on him completely the first few days of my “out of commission” time. He never sighed or made a comment. He just helped.
Everyday he reassured me that he still loved me (despite wearing sweatpants and t-shirts for 2 weeks).
When I knew I was going to be out of commission for awhile, I was ready for it mentally. Yet, I wasn’t ready for the lessons that I would learn spiritually and emotionally.
Honestly, would not have chosen the path that I was put on, but I wouldn’t change it for anything.
Until next week,